Change is inevitable. That doesn't mean
it's always wanted, welcomed or liked. Yet, in the midst of it is
where many folks find themselves now. Some of the change we have been
forced into. Some has developed organically. For others, this was a
deliberate decision to create change. And, if you are looking at
launching initiatives toward change at this New Moon, chances are
it's because you became “over done” with the way things are in
your life in some form or the other or you realize NOT making change
in a certain area of your life is becoming detrimental to your health
be that physical, mental, spiritual or a combination of all three.
Don't think for a minute that even if
you are the one declaring the need for change to occur in your life
and the one willing to take the steps to make it that you are going
to be all happy and excited about it the entire time, either. We
don't do things that are harmful to our health consciously because we
don't like actually doing the thing. You know? I don't go into denial
about my lactose intolerance and devour an entire quart of Ben and
Jerry's in the middle of the night because I don't like eating ice
cream. It's the day's long suffering that follows that makes me
consider curbing the habit. Problem is...I friggin like ice cream!
But, eventually it comes down to a weighing of “likes”...which do
I like better? Rebelling against myself and savoring this lovely
container of Chunky Monkey for about 30 minutes or enduring hours of
self-inflicted solitude on the stinky throne writhing in pain?
I'll admit. Sometimes the Chunky Monkey
wins and I'm not even sorry.
That is a minor example. Sometimes we
are called to make changes in our diet or elsewhere due more severe
current or potential health reasons. That's not fun or easy either.
Outside of diet, perhaps the changes
are coming to your daily routine for other reasons. A break up. A new
level of relating to your current partner (ie: moving from friends to
dating, changing from married couple to co-parent, evolving from
engaged to married). The addition or loss of a family member, friend
or spouse. Change in jobs. Maybe the call to change has come to visit
due things out of your control...layoffs, deaths, company closures,
technological advances, changes in rules/laws etc. It could be any
number of things that causes it. But, it all leads to kind of the
same thing...moving on. That eventually leads to full immersion in
the new. The first step to moving on is coming to a realization and
acceptance of the fact that moving on is necessary. There is no
mandate that says you have to or will like it. There is no guarantee
that you will know exactly what every step ahead of you will be or
how to do it. And if someone asks you how you are going to do
something it's ok to admit “I don't know.” There's also a good
chance you might screw things up a few times as you try to get used
this. There is a chance, no matter how familiar these new
routines/habits become, you still might miss the old way! There's
even a chance you may change your mind! You might decide to go back
to the way things were or temporarily backslide into those old
habits. But, we aren't worried about any of that today.
We are too busy burning the plans we had before we knew this change was coming.
At this juncture, we are accepting the
changes we have chosen or have been forced into making. That's the
first step toward cutting ourselves free from these
albatrosses...even though we may friggin like the albatross. After
that, all we have to worry about is taking the next step we can make
that supports these changes.
There is no pace requirement though! We
can decide to move on and still spend time after that in mourning
even if the “moving on” occurs after a great big “I'm. So.
DONE!” scenario. In matters of grief after loss of a loved one to
death, the decision to move on can come with an acceptance of the
fact that the mourning may never end for the person who is
gone...but, somehow, you've got to figure out a way to keep going
forward in life without this person in it.
In Virgo, it's the mind that drives
action. So, these are things we have likely considered very carefully
by now. We may have experimented with a few methods already. We may
have changed our minds a few times already, even. But, now, lots of
folks will find themselves in those places in which they are ready to
at least give a “new way” a shot. If this is you, remember you
can take this slowly and be patient with yourself. You don't have
come from a place of self-punishment or harsh discipline. You can
take these steps forward gently and slowly. The Universe supports us
in this approach right now more so than a harsher one. You can come
from a place of self-acceptance and love. You can admit you have
fears and uncertainty. You are allowed to fail and have some methods
prove themselves ineffective before you try alternatives. You are
allowed to admit you have no idea what the hell you are even doing.
You are allowed to feel awkward. And, yes, there will be likely also
be times of discomfort for you and potentially for others too that we
all may just have to endure and work through because this change is
so important. It's worth it. Or, we simply have no choice.
With a stellium in Virgo...we are going
to be prone to complain about it for a while. We may try to distract
ourselves away from our individual need for change by nit picking
everyone else about what they need to do or by swooping in and trying
to rescue. But if there is something that we need to address in our
own garden...it's not going to go away. So, it's best to focus in on
what is healthiest for ourselves first and start figuring out a way
to address that one uncomfortable, awkward, tedious, guilt ridden and
at risk of backsliding step at a time. Doesn't have to be all or
nothing. Doesn't have to be one and done...we are just talking about
step ONE of being DONE...which is simply deciding that you are.
Our collective guide for this lunation
is the 6 of Swords. I love the snarky meme that someone made out of
that card because it is so very true. But, if you look at the
traditional version...the scene is pretty peaceful. But ain't nobody
having a flipping party on that boat. The tone is quite somber even
if we know that our decision to move on was one that will lead us
toward something healthier or judged as “better” for us. Perhaps
the woman in the traditional version has decided to make change for
herself because she's realized it would be the best thing for the
child traveling with her as an example. A lot of these decisions to
move on can also deal with how they may also impact the lives of the
folks who are dependent upon us or that we care about. Sometimes,
that fact can be why we put so much pressure on ourselves TO KNOW
exactly how to deal with it...because we are the darn adult right? We
should know this stuff. But, ha...you don't. And, here we are still
having to do it. Meaning, you can read up on it. Research it. THINK
YOU KNOW...but you won't know. Not until you get going.
“The owl of Minerva spreads its wings
only with the falling of dusk”-Georg Wilhelm Friedrich Hegel. Which
means, wisdom is gleaned as an experience is ending...not in the
middle of it. Certainly not in the beginning. Yet, we do have wisdom
we can glean from the situation we are leaving...do we not? We can
glean that on our journey moving forward and put it into application
as we try to figure out what the heck we are supposed to do next in
this new world...routine...budding habit... Take the concept of doing
it absolutely perfect the first time and throw it overboard. You
don't have to set impossible standards. Doesn't mean Virgo won't
tempt you to try. She can also tempt you to be quite hard on yourself
when you can't too. Don't fall into that trap. It's not how many
times you fail that matters. It's your willingness to get up and keep
trying until you are successful. The energy we have coming from our
Earth planets can surely help with that. Taurus can turn stubborn
into tenacious if the incentive it worthy. Virgo can lay out an
incremental plan. And, Capricorn can employ that plan and definitely
has a willingness to keep climbing toward its goals.
It's going to be Jupiter and Neptune
that stir our pots on the way there in this season of Virgo, though.
We've not really even gotten a whiff of that yet. But...it's coming.
By the time we get to the Full Moon in Pisces in mid-September all
this stuff that is high and dry in Virgo right now will have passed
through a mutable t-square with Jupiter and Neptune. Oh...we find
anchor through that eventually as this stuff also will trine Pluto
prior to entering Libra but there is a whole of barrage of bullshit
to deal with on our way there. That's my prediction anyway.
Venus will be the first through this
Jupiter/Neptune storm. And it will be in that time that we will
likely really lament what it is we are leaving behind right now.
We will miss and crave the ice cream.
From it's frosty aisle in the grocery store...it calls tauntingly out
to us. “Buy me...sneak me into the car. Take me somewhere no one
knows our names. It can be just you and me. No one has to know. It
will be different this time. I promise.”
Don't act like you don't know what I'm
talking about. This happens.
Spoiler alert...it's not going to be
any different. The ice cream...it lies. I still love it. But I love
it so much it threatens to be the death of me..or at least my
plumbing. And so...alas...as all things one loves eventually demand,
I shall set it free. Let it go. Love it from afar. And, turn to face
the cold cruel hostile place the world has become without it...one
complaining whiny weak fearful breath at a time.
Again, minor example but yeah it's a
lot like that.
At this New Moon, decide where you need
to let go, move on or create change in the interest of your own
health or the welfare of those you care about. Then, get in the boat.
Take the journey one ripple and one step and one well thought out
decision at a time. Learn to trust yourself and be patient as the new
teaches and challenges you. You can do this. Because it's important.
In some instances, it could bring positive changes in tremendous ways
into your life! Just this one step! But, you've got to be the one
willing to take it. This Moon invites you set your compass and
intention in that direction now.
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