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Jolinda “Josi” Case is a Spiritual Counselor who uses Tarot and Astrology (among other tools) as forms of divination. She is an avid and vigorous student of the esoteric. Josi has a great deal of experience in assisting people through major life changes such as death/dying/grief through counseling.

Josi’s main motivation is to empower others by assisting them to connect with and express their most true and authentic self. She also strives to give people the authority to feel comfortable in the pursuit of their personal Spirituality.

Josi’s formal education includes collegiate level degrees in Communications, Business and Psychology. She is also an ordained minister. In her free time (HA!), she writes a weekly column for her local paper (The Greenup Beacon), blogs on her site Shock Therapy and relaxes with her husband (“Ox”), three grown boys, two grandsons and pets (Prince, Mercury and Perseus).
 
Most recently, Josi has bonded forces with Dixie Vogel of A Fool's Journey to produce a monthly show they call Woo Woo Wonderful. The purpose of the live broadcast is to empower others with knowledge of Spirit and Mysticism.

Friday, March 29, 2013

Forgiveness--The heart of the matter


“I forgive you.”
What exactly does that mean anyway? Does that mean that I think it is “ok” that you did whatever you did to hurt me?
I’ve been wondering. I’ve been wondering for a very long time. I have drawn some conclusions.  After I drew my conclusions, I did some research. Of course, I have a tendency to do things backward—in case you haven’t noticed.
At first, I really thought forgiving someone was about understanding the how’s and why’s behind whatever it was they did. I thought after forgiveness occurred, then the relationship automatically resumed with an “all clear and all forgotten” clause.  I thought forgiveness was a free pass to the offender for what they had done. I thought it meant, “You were not responsible for the hurt you inflicted upon me.”
These misconceptions kept me away from even an inkling of forgiveness for a very long time.
In my personal journey, I’ve discovered that not one of those thoughts hold truth.
As a matter of fact, forgiveness has little to do with the person that hurt you but much to do with yourself or the person who was hurt.
I also thought that forgiveness was a onetime thing. I forgive you for…whatever. Done. But, it isn’t! Forgiveness is an ongoing laborious process that involves a lot of work from the person who is planning to forgive someone. It can also involve a lot of work from the person who committed the offense but not necessarily.
See, the other person may never feel that they have done anything wrong to you. Or, they may know they did something to you but could not care less. Maybe they believe you deserved what happened. Maybe they felt justified in their actions. Maybe they are just a jerk.
The offender’s participation in forgiveness is actually dependent on their relationship with you (if any) and their cognizance of what happened.
Let’s say Jack cut off your right arm. He did it on purpose. He’s not sorry. And, here you are..stuck with one arm. Having only one arm has affected you since it happened. It has completely changed how  you function in life. You have to eat and write with your left hand. You had to give up your dream of ever becoming an Olympic swimmer. It affected how others reacted to you. That one event that took maybe an hour or so to occur effectively shaped your future.
Needless to say, you are mad at Jack. And, I don’t blame you. But, you go for years and years being mad at Jack. You curse him under your breath each time you unconsciously try to do something with your right arm that is no longer there. Then, you realize, you have given this one hour with Jack not only power over your body but your mind, your emotions and your life!
What has to happen to stop in order to stop this is you have to forgive Jack. But, how do you let him know that you are over it and ready to move on. Jack doesn’t care. He lives in Zimbabwe now with his new wife and probably wouldn’t even recognize you if you passed him on the street.
Then, you realize, how fair is that? Jack walks around unaffected and you are influenced by this every dang day! How is it that happens? You didn’t do anything to deserve your arm getting lopped off? Why can’t you move forward?
Here’s where the power switch comes in. The ability (or power) to move forward lies entirely in your hands (or hand, if you were the victim of Jack).  This person who hurt you holds all the power only while you allow them too. They continue to affect your life only for the duration that you dictate. Once you realize that, you have just crossed the first threshold to moving on.
Moving on is hard, though. It involves change. You are used to being mad at Jack and blaming him for absolutely everything that has happened to you since he cut off your arm. But, in doing so, you are relinquishing your own power in the situation and giving it all to him. So, stop that already.
You don’t even have to let Jack know you forgive him. Let him go about his life in Zimbabwe and you just keep on keeping on like nothing ever happened. Forgiveness is for you.
And, you might have to forgive for the same situation more than once. Feelings of resentment, anger and the like are just like any habit. It takes practice, diligence and motivation to kick them. So, you might be fine for a day or so and then one day go to scratch your nose with your right arm and get mad all over again.
That’s ok. You are human and we have tendency to backslide. Just start over. Forgive again. Keep moving forward and the stumbles will occur less and less. Plus, you’ll be carrying a lot less baggage. Your overall life quality will improve. You will feel lighter and freer---because you WILL BE lighter and freer. That will motivate you to put it behind you even more.
I ran across a quote while researching this topic. There were several quotes and many of them came from the Bible which speaks a great deal on forgiveness and its importance. This particular quote, however, was from the Mahabharata.

"There is one only defect in forgiving persons and not another; that defect is that people take a forgiving person to be weak. That defect, however, should not be taken into consideration, for forgiveness is a great power. Forgiveness is a virtue of the weak and an ornament of the strong. Forgiveness subdues all in this world; what is there that forgiveness cannot achieve? What can a wicked person do unto him who carries the sabre of forgiveness in his hand? Fire falling on the grassless ground is extinguished of itself. "

From this I came to the understanding that forgiveness says, “You cannot hurt me unless I allow it. I no longer allow it. This makes me the strong one who is free to go forward in my life.”
The definition I found for forgiveness says, “it is the renunciation or cessation of resentment, indignation or anger as the result of a perceived offence, disagreement, or mistake, or ceasing demand, punishment or restitution.”
It is the act of you letting go. It is the act of you giving yourself permission to move forward with your life. It is the act of you letting this void created by the previous pain to become filled with whatever you choose. Life no longer has to be dictated to you from this hurt. It is about you and healing. It may be scary. But, be hopeful because you are brave and strong. This is obvious or would not be reading this. Now, would you?




Tuesday, March 26, 2013

Libra Full Moon, March 27th, 2013


I drew a card for the full moon tomorrow. Yes, I could cast the chart and analyze the aspects. But, really, my brain just isn't thinking very analytically right now. It's in a more of a flowing state. It has stopped trying to logically figure out what in the world is going on. It has also ceased to believe that it has absolutely any control of it. Sure, it still tries to think ahead. It still tries to work through cause and consequence, but for the most part, my brain has just given up trying to figure it all out. Instead, it's watching, observing and finding distractions that are fun to play with while all this stuff goes down.

The tide has rolled in and washed all sorts of wonderful things on the beach. Well, some of them are wonderful. It's also washed up some jelly fish and other things that are intriguing, if not beautiful to look at, but yet very dangerous and painful to play with too much.

I've managed to side-step most of those dangers. I looked at them. Marveled at them. But, I didn't dare touch them.

Not every new treasure is intangible. There have been some perfect shells. I've even discovered some things that I didn't know existed. I had to poke at them a few times with a stick to make sure they weren't dangerous. Some were. Others you could pick up and put in your pocket because they were keepers, just like the shells.

But, back to my original train of thought, I decided to draw a card instead of look at planetary configurations for the full moon. That's just where I am.


 

Enter, the Page of Cups.

Look what he has found! He has a gorgeous goblet and he's taking very good care of it. He must have just found it because it seems like he is only now looking up from it to notice your presence. Carefully, he holds in front of him as if to say, “Wow. Look at this...”
 

He holds it nurturingly but his mind is racing with all the possibilities for this new find. This thing is a budding mystery and he's ready to dream it into whatever his little heart can conjure up. But, he's going to be careful with it. That's for sure. He's going to take care of that cup while he's showing it off and having his adventure in finding out what it means, where it came from, what it does and what it can do.


He's just amazed by it. And, his amazement is hypnotizing to you. You get swept right up into his wonderment and following your own train of thought as you imagine all that could be and is with this cup.

“Careful,” Says the Page. “You can hold it, but be really careful. This is a very special cup. It can become anything you dream it to be. Anything. But, there are somethings you are better off not dreaming about. So, don't try it. You've got to be careful with it. If you use it right, you will be in the most wonderful places and see the most wonderful things..whatever your heart desires. You know the difference. Right?”
 



Friday, March 8, 2013

New Moon in Pisces March 11, 2013


Early Monday morning, the Moon has an appointment with Venus at 7:34 AM EDT. Hopefully both have rested well. I’m sure things will seem a bit off kilter with the time change over the weekend. It’s only an hour. But, it does take a bit of time to adjust.
Venus has been swimming away in Pisces picking up treasures and dreams on her journey. She’s socialized with every other planet in the sign and flirted across the way with all that are not.  She has conjured fantasies of what it is she wants. She has gathered a bit of idealism and delusion about what it is she values.  Now, she is finding that all these things she has picked up are bogging her down. It’s too much. It could possibly cause her to drown.

Emotionally we are still swimming too. But, the Moon has been given the opportunity to catch up on all that has happened with her visits in the days prior. Plus, the Moon hasn’t been subjected to Neptune’s swamp for the entire month like Venus. We have been given glimpses of what we need—which is moon ruled.
Venus, however, is what we want. And what we want has been drowning and overwhelming us. Armed with the knowledge (even if subconscious) of what we need emotionally and having this clarified after meeting with Neptune, Mercury, Saturn, Pluto and Chiron, the Moon approaches Venus gently and asks, “What is it my dear, that you currently have that you are willing to sacrifice for what you want?”
Maybe you want to save money to buy a new house. In order to do this, you will have to sacrifice some of your frivolous spending. Do you want to have children? Then you may have to be willing to sacrifice some of your childless lifestyle in order to do that. Do you want a new job? Then, you will have to sacrifice the time and energy to prepare. And, for awhile you will need to sacrifice some stability.
This is what the Moon and Venus discuss. Venus says, “I want this” and the Moon says, “Well, then you will have to let this go.”
If something or someone tries to exit your life don’t resist. Let it or them go. Process the emotions and grieve. But know the Universe doesn’t allow a space to sit empty for very long. And, you do have a say in how that emptiness is filled.
Remember your intention? Good, because here comes the New Moon.
      
At 3:52 PM the Moon will meet up with the Sun. That’s when it is exact. But, know that the effects of a New Moon can be felt several days prior to and after the exact aspect. Now you know why I had you preparing over the weekend! If you followed my advice, most of your work is already done!
The New Moon is where Will and Emotion align. Mother Moon and Father Sun come together. And, you know what that means..babies are made. Aka: A new beginning. The circle of life dictates that each new beginning is some beginnings end. That reflects our discussion with Venus this morning.
At their meeting today, Sun and Moon discuss the state of their children (the other planets). And, they align with a plan on how to deal with them. They are both tired and burdened. The weight of the world is literally on their shoulders.
They are about to lay down the law. Quite literally. The Sabian Symbol for the New Moon in Pisces is, “A man bringing down the new law from Mount Sinai” A higher authority (the Sun) is putting his foot down and Mommy Moon is going to be sure he is supported because she agrees with this decision.
What law will you in doctrine? You are the ego (Sun) in this scenario. You are the emotional undercurrent (Moon). Are you tired of carrying everyone’s burdens? Are you willing to put some of them down (sacrifice them) and choose to assist with the ones that are only beneficial to all?
The New Moon chart for my area has Leo Rising, again. It falls only a few degrees after the ascendant of the Full Moon on the 25th. That means that most of this Pisces still falls in the 8th house. Mercury and Neptune are snuggled up tight in the 7th. Does anyone else hear an echo?
The difference is we are assimilating information because Mercury is running backward. We are internalizing all that Jupiter has thrown at us. And now, instead of the Moon being in the sign of Worry (Virgo) she is back over with her family in Pisces. She’s most definitely in their flow. But, she’s done with all this swimming. She’s ready to take Daddy’s plan and run with it. And, that’s exactly what she does.
This is why it is so important to have your course pre-plotted. After the New Moon, things are going to speed up. The Moon will catch up with her prodigal son, Mars, who is about to Jump over into Aries and join up with the God of Revolution. You are going to be jerked forward in a FLASH in whatever direction you are pointed in shortly after the New Moon. So make sure you are paying attention!
You are going to have to delegate tasks or drop some completely to keep up the pace. Have you ever tried to take off running after you’ve been swimming all day? You’ve gotten used to the weightlessness of the water, your muscles are tired and gravity has tripled in force. You aren’t going to have the energy to run and carry extra weight…and we are going…whether we like it or not.
I drew the 10 of Wands in reference to this New Moon. If you want to know what that means, go back and read the last paragraph. Check out the guy in the picture on the card. He looks none too happy to be carrying all that. Do you reckon they all belong to him? How long do you think he’s going to tote them around before he starts trimming his load? How long are you?



Your Weekend March 9-10, 2013

Are we over our emotional hangover? Close. But, we are not quite there yet.
Saturday morning arrives with the Moon nestled in Aquarius. I’ve an inkling that many will sleep a bit later than usual and that’s not going to bode well with the time change in Daylight Savings Time areas. Yet, I’ve a feeling that is how the morning will begin. Slow.
We all have had quite the week from which to recuperate from.  It was indeed haphazard and emotionally draining for most. Now, however, we need to detach from that emotional volatility and start looking toward the future.

Many that I’ve spoken to this week are ready to move forward. I cannot say that everyone has not enjoyed this Pisces season. Many have found it as a reprieve. It was introspective to say the least. However, for many, the elusiveness and confusion that wrapped this time period caused it to feel exhausting.  Some felt their motivation disappear. Some watched valuables vanish. Some overestimated their abilities and spoke and acted in ways that eluded to their own inner demons in a way they, themselves, did not recognize.
While many of us slept, enjoying the livid animation in our dreams, the Universe was at work. There were key events that occurred which will ultimately affect us all. Endings. Changes. Specific mis-information. Flux. Instability. Fantasy. All of these things that have occurred were deliberately planted seeds. Some planted of our own hand without our conscious realization. Some fatedly embedded. Each will very soon burst forward and be known.

I would advise that you discern exactly what intention you wish to set on the Monday’s New Moon today (Saturday) before the Moon moves into Pisces. Review what has occurred from the end of January until now. You will be able to hold these events at a distance and gain a bit of perspective. But, after that reflection, I would advise you look forward. Think of the things you are aiming toward. Mentally script how you would like the rest of your year to play out. Go so far as to project to this time next year.  At that point, imagine you are looking back upon all that has happened. What advice would your future self give to your present self?
Then, come back to the present, and set your intention.
I would advise that the rest of the day be spent checking in with your community, your friends, your tribe..if you will. Avoid conversations about the news and current events. Instead try to direct focus to one another. Don’t speak about what you’ve read or heard is going on in the world. Bring it closer to home and see if you can gear the conversation so that people are talking about and focusing on what is currently happening in their own lives.

I say this because people have a tendency to focus on external events in an effort to escape their own life. It doesn’t mean that we should constantly ignore what happens on the world stage. But it does mean that we should not ignore our own circumstances in favor of getting swept up in the drama we see in the media. What we do as individuals and small connected groups is of greater importance than what we are being told.
It’s a good idea to take note of the things that you have personally started without much inkling as to why. For example, I’ve been pouring over creative projects allowing creativity to flow through me into various physical forms. I’ve also started hoarding money. I’ve paid all my bills in advance. None of these things have I planned to do. I’ve no reason why I did these things. I simply followed what I felt and this is where it led me. I would guarantee that most people will be able to find at least one thing that occurred for them in the same manner.
Does my hoarding of money reflect a future possibility of needing it? Does my interest in channeling my emotions through creative projects indicate that I will need the ability to do that later on this year? Both are quite possible. But, there was nothing to give me that indication while I was doing it. And, at this point, I honestly still do not know.
I’ve also been following a very strong desire to purge and clean. Purify the space my family occupies. Wipe the slate clean for a new beginning. And, I’ve had a strong urge to connect to the collective which, at times has been overwhelming. But, in doing so, I have also learned how to release a lot of what I was feeling both on a personal level and a collective level. I learned to let this wash over me and then dissipate. I learned it was easier to float than to try to direct the course of the tide. It was, however, not without challenge.
I have a lot of Cardinal/controlling energy. I’m also much more fixed than I had realized. When things are uncertain and constantly changing, I become nervous. And, that was the point that I learned to draw upon faith and surrender. This brings me to my point about Saturday night and Sunday leading us to the New Moon in Pisces on Monday.
Once you have done your work of future scripting and before you go to bed, let your intention be know via prayer. Solidify it in your brain “This is what I want. This is where I want to go.” Then, let it go. Surrender it to the Universe and have faith. Then, hold onto that faith while maintaining a knowledge that all things do occur according to plan—it just isn’t always our own plan and we aren’t always privy to the why’s and the how’s. Whatever it is you are wishing for let it go. Surrender it to the Universe. Don’t forget to include your wishes and blessings for everyone else. This should be an embracing and encompassing surrender. Lay it down.
After most of us are in bed on Saturday night at 1:20 AM EST (Before we reset the clocks) the moon moves into Pisces. During her last visit here (February 11-13), Mercury was direct and conjuncting Chiron, trining Saturn and then sextiling Pluto. Mercury has just finished that trek in reverse ending with a second conjunction to Chiron on Friday. He’s revisited all that information and is on his way to visit with the Moon to discuss it when she re-enters the sign.

The Moon stood on the other side of the zodiac and watched all that was happening from Virgo during the Full Moon on the 25th. She watched as events culminated. She watched confusion fester. She worried. But, she worked as she glanced to her left at Jupiter, to her right at Saturn and Pluto and directly ahead at Neptune, Venus, Mercury, Mars and the Sun.  She climbed around the circle and has met with Saturn and then scolded the whole group from Sagittarius while standing at opposite position to Jupiter (she was not pleased with what she was hearing) and squared off to each of these bodies in Pisces unsure of what they were up to. She passed over Pluto and worked through diligently through Capricorn grounding and preparing to meet up with the Pisces group again. She sent the Fish notice she was coming.
Friday and Saturday, has been her time to say her goodbyes and plan her approach before diving back into the sea. She will bring with her support from land (Saturn and Pluto). She will stand off to Jupiter in an effort to get him to soften his edges a bit—but knows she may become ruffled while doing so.
Her first meeting occurs early in the morning on Sunday. It’s scheduled for around 8:30 AM EDT (after the time change) with Neptune. Hopefully he will not forget to reset his clock thus beginning the string of meetings late. Don’t expect to understand anything that is passed between the two. It would however be an excellent day to begin with meditation. Tapping into the flow. Recounting your prayers and intentions from the night before. Feel. Release. Nurture faith. Quiet will be favored. One last bit of introspection and floating about.

Around 4:30 PM, the Moon has her meeting with Mercury. Here, she is filled in on all the information and details of his trek since she last visited with him. Once armed with this information, she is squares off with Jupiter. And, she may be quite agitated as she sorts through all the things that Jupiter has blown out of proportion. She may, herself, become victim of being overly stimulated. And, so may you. Her best bet (and yours) is to maintain a good sense of humor. Keep her perspective. Allow the tides to carry her while having faith in its direction.
At nearly 8 PM EDT, the Moon meets up with Chiron. Collective and personal pain could very well be felt. Nurturing can heal. Share your faith and your perspective. Look to those who nurture you. Nurture yourself and your own healing while having compassion for the wounds and healing process of others. Show Compassion to those that fall under your own wing.
At the end of the day, Moon checks in with Saturn and Pluto, finding a bit of grounding comfort after such a watery day. She’s able to find a bit of realism in this water color painting she has been swimming around in. This would be an excellent time for divination. Enjoy this bit of realism and ground yourself in an effort to connect to what else needs to be released..what else needs to be reconstructed or built. Look to those structures that support you and lean upon them. The tide has washed in over the past two days. Allow it to wash back out. Monday, is coming. And, the Moon has three last bodies to visit with directly on that day.

Sunday, March 3, 2013

Work week forecast for March 4-March 8 2013


From distraught confusion to productivity and down again.
Sunday night (March 3), dreams are confusing and you may be rudely awakened long before the alarm clock goes off. Monday morning, you may be unsure of exactly what it is you want. Or, what you want is not what you need. This only gets worse as you will have a tendency to blow things out of proportion. Your brain is still reeling from the night before but it is a confusing type of rambling. I think the good doctor in Macbeth describes this best after he has just seen Lady Macbeth walking blindly in her nightmares.
   
    Foul whisperings are abroad. Unnatural deeds
    Do breed unnatural troubles; infected minds
    To their deaf pillows will discharge their secrets;
    More needs she the divine than the physician.
    God, God forgive us all! Look after her;
    Remove from her the means of all annoyance,
    And still keep eyes upon her. So, good-night:
    My mind she has mated, and amaz’d my sight.
    I think, but dare not speak.
Were you talking in your sleep? Were you awakened by someone else talking? Were you able to tell what it was they were saying. Were they giving themselves away? What secrets lurk in the mind in the middle of the night.

Focus is elusive and that is bad for a Monday (March 4).

9 am, you grab the donut. Or something rich and not on your diet. You don't care. You don't want to be at work nor do you feel like being at work.

You plod a bit. Your energy levels may wane. Again, no focus. You tackle tasks as they come.

Before the work day is over, you revisit what you overheard in dream? Hallucination? Slumbering speech? You aren't really sure how you feel about that and might decide to confront it when you get home.

It is all quickly forgotten in the evening chores.

Advice: He who maintains a sense of humor and perspective will fair the best. Be patient with yourself and others. Worry could very well be your worst enemy and this is a fruitless habit. Instead, find an opportunity to do something Earth related. Clean something. Organize something simple that doesn't require much brain power. Go for a walk. Tackle tasks in small chunks.


Tuesday (March 5) creeps in quietly but you are itchy. You don't want to spend the day the same way as yesterday. You slept better. You try to talk yourself into a good mood. But still, you don't really feel like doing what you are doing. Slow down. Take tasks one step at a time. This will pass. You will forget.

New bills are waiting for you in the mailbox. You realize you must do better tomorrow. Perhaps some ice cream and a good movie will provide a distraction.

You go to bed somber, yet determined.

Advice: Again, maintain a sense of humor and perspective. In the evening hours you will feel a bit more grounded. But, during the day, you won't feel like doing what you are doing. Lack of focus may facilitate the need to do something over. So, bear this in mind and take things slowly in an effort to get it right the first time. Take a break from electronic devices throughout the day. Ground. Maybe find time to meditate for a few minutes. At the very least practice controlling your breath in a calm even manner.

The dreams come again. This time, you don't wake before the clock (March 6). These were soothing magical dreams. But, alas, you are heading to work and something..just..happens! Ugh, you are going to be late.

Again, take your time. It's a bump in the road. Unexpected but surmountable. By early morning, you realize it wasn't such a big deal. Your mood improves after lunch. Perhaps it was a social affair. Maybe you tried that new place that opened in town. Maybe you just found time to relax. You certainly didn't technically work through it. Although, you do feel better because you were better able to concentrate this morning.

By midday you're dead on. You will finish this project and be able to clear off your desk. It is, afterall, humpday. The week is already half over and so is your work day. Zero in on what needs to be done to finish the week out.

The phones are busy. Lots of people are calling due business related matters. Did everyone wake up at the same time? You handle it well. Your productivity pleases you. You are the professional.

Later that night, something catches your eye that reminds you of something or someone you valued in the past. Was it a dear friend you had lost touch with? The elusive romantic interest that you allowed to slip right through your fingers. Or, maybe you just balance your checkbook and pat yourself on the back for staying within your budget.

You lie down full of satisfaction and stability. It has been a good day. You are happy and pleased with your performance.

 
Dreams are filled with charm and pleasantry.

Advice: Take advantage of your ability to focus more clearly and get some work done. Nothing brings about a good night's sleep like a day filled with productivity. Don't allow yourself to wallow in the funk that manifested from the past two days. Pull yourself up and move on.

You may even dream of a solution that you have been looking for. It could be followed by an extraordinary insight. Something you've overlooked..AHA!


The morning is smooth (March 7), dependable. You are still able to orient yourself to be productive. Late evening has you still filled with energy. You are upbeat. You may even tackle a few extra things when you get home. You do have that checklist..

Again, the night comes to find you satisfied. So much that you might even feel charitable. Have you noticed anyone around you struggling? Can you help them? What is that special “cause” you've been thinking about supporting.

Advice: It's a good night to be a little industrious. It doesn't have to be all work and no play. You should have a nice reserve of energy that supports you in spreading around a little joy. Physical activity of all kinds is supported. Yes, even sex.

It's Friday (March 8) Your mind may have stirred frequently last night but you've found your second wind with the carrot of Saturday hanging in front of you. You are on fire tackling tasks as they come and your mind is firing better than it has been for awhile..or at least you feel like it is.

You should try something new this weekend. Unusual. Break up your routine. Get out of the house. Go out with friends. The excitement of the weekends freedom builds as the day goes forward. But, your nose never leaves the grindstone.

Advice: Be careful not to set your expectations too high. There is a chance you could be disappointed. Instead, be realistic, grounded and supportive. There is still a weekend to be had. Surround yourself with positive friends. You will be susceptible to the moods of those around you but the ability to detach from that is also available. Generally, people will be happy but some will overdo. Avoid the heavy drinkers and be careful on the roads. Have fun. But, maintain a sense of safety. Be responsible but not uptight. Remember, everyone else has had an unpredictable week too.